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Take Charge Of Your Life & Stop Playing
The Blame Game
Have you ever gone through a period of adversity, challenge
& tremendous upheaval? We all have. But… have you ever wondered
why some people seem to move through their difficult times with
greater ease than others? And some get angry & bitter and
have a list of reasons why they are being challenged by others?
I know it is easy to blame others when things go wrong. When
you're passed over for a promotion, it's easy to blame management
for not recognizing your brilliance. When your spouse or partner
does not complete a task you've asked them to do, it's easy
to blame them for never listening. When you have difficulty
adjusting to a new environment and remain on the fringe of your
new host country, it's easy to place the blame on the new culture
for not being accepting of strangers and closing themselves
to newcomers.
To give responsibility to others seems convenient and easy
at first but in the long run it:
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makes you vulnerable to blaming others or
yourself
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weakens your strengths and undermines your
self-esteem
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makes you dependent on others to run your
life, you have to take what others believe is good for you
and in your best interests
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can lead to habitual fear at being unable
to meet even the most minor challenges on your own
You are responsible for everything that happens in your life:
both the good and the bad. It may be difficult to accept but you
are a contributor in every challenge that comes your way. It takes
courage to see your contributing role when having difficulty being
accepted into a new culture. Perhaps you have not been as eager
to learn the language of your new host country or wistfully long
for the way things were in your old environment and are slow to
accept the differences in your new culture. Transitioning to a
new environment does take time but a willingness to do adopt new
customs can definitely ease your transition and aid your assimilation
into a new culture. The next time you find yourself blaming others
for the negative circumstances in your life, step back and examine
your role in the situation.
Taking responsibility for yourself, though difficult, is extremely
rewarding. It empowers you to be in control of your life and your
happiness. Your self-esteem grows as you take ownership of your
life.
Other benefits include:
- Discovering your creativity, your talents, strengths, vitality.
You have fun exploring your own desires/dreams/goals
- Discovering new things. You are able to approach new situations
and people with confidence and curiosity
- You get to know yourself well and as a result you can build
up on your potentials
It takes strength to choose to stop being a victim, accept personal
responsibility for your actions and your happiness, and stop blaming
others for every challenge that you are faced with in your life.
But accepting personal responsibility empowers you to move forward
in your life and live the life you were destined to live.
NEXT: Now that you’ve discovered more about my views
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